Selhaver's Blog

Rambling space for friends and family!

Friday, September 03, 2004

Hi my friends! I can't believe I haven't written in so long. I must admit I was persuaded for awhile to not write. I was informed that my right-wing opinions were too, well, right-wing. It was wrong of me to let the opinions of others' shadow my love of God and our great country.

That being said...let me tell you a few things! I quit my job as a webbie with Titan on the Army contract in April. I'm officially a stay-at-home mom and learning to take care of our businesses (auto detailing and towing). I LOVE it! Should've done this a LONG time ago...but just couldn't leave the Pentagon. I took one last walk down the corridors with the ghosts of the past...hugged them all, said a tearful goodbye and told them I'd see them in heaven some day. I will always remember.

In July my hubby Pete, daughter Franchesca, and I attended a beautiful wedding in Colorado. My cousin married the love of his life on a mountain top. Exquisite!

There was also a sadness to the wedding, for my cousin knew that becoming one with his wife would mean severing ties to certain members of his family. His sister put it aptly - it was a bittersweet moment in life, the realization that a new path had been struck, a path that not everyone chose to walk with them.

Without going into intimate details - my cousins' wonderful Mom died many years ago of cancer and of heartbreak. She loved her husband but he was not emotionally able to handle her illness and worse yet, his heart belonged to someone else. Separation, divorce, the usual horror compounded by the devastation of cancer. Usually a spunky, happy woman, her last breaths were filled with anger for her husband, something my family has not been able to get over - in this case time does not heal all wounds. It takes something (someone) much more powerful.

My cousins have been able to move on, always remembering their incredible mother in their daily endeavors and yet also learning to appreciate their Dad's current wife (the one he lost his heart to so long ago). No one can replace their Mom but no one is trying to - his wife is a graceful, Godly woman who has asked God for forgiveness of her sins. She loves the Lord and her husband with true passion and soul. They are one. And she would die for his children.

I truly believe that my aunt in heaven is proud of her children for forgiving, for moving on and living their lives as life is meant to be lived. They understand forgiveness and what it means to God. I know my aunt would be more at peace in heaven if she knew that everyone in the family could forgive, really forgive. It must rip her apart to see the destruction of the family.

I think they believe that if they let go of the hatred and anger and pain that they will be letting go of my aunt. In a way, yes, they would be. But they don't understand that she wants to be let go of, she wants to rest in peace, that her dying medicated breaths of anger and pain were let go when she met the Lord. There are so many better ways to celebrate her life and her death.

Thus the path of life is severed, for the road my cousins have chosen is in a positive new direction while many of my family choose to remain in their potholes, unable to dig themselves out. Only forgiveness will set them free.

We were also met with great evil while at the wedding. Pete and I prayed for hours afterwards. Such evil can only be fought with fervent prayer. Certain folks are attempting to rewrite the bible. Nothing new there, eh? I understand why they are doing this - they want the bible to conform to their desires so that the sins in their lives (and the lives of those they love) will be taken away. Oh my, don't we all want that? Haha! God sees what they are doing though and His true word will prevail.

All in all, it was quite a memorable wedding. :-)

And for the pro-abortionists, just ask God for forgiveness, especially for any abortion you might have had or assisted with. HE WILL FORGIVE YOU. And then go out and preach to the world how precious life is.

I will be in New York city for 9/11. Pray for the Heart of America Quilt (http://www.heartofamericaquilt.com). Many blessings to all!